Why Does God Allow Us To Feel Alone?

    Have you ever found yourself feeling alone? You might find yourself crying out to God and wondering why you are being left out, like life is passing you by and there seems to be nothing you can do to help it. After all, you already prayed "your will, Lord, not mine". So why does it feel like He doesn't care? Obviously you know He does, I mean, He seems to care a whole lot about that couple that just got engaged...or that person in your church who was delivered from a terminal illness with no traces left in their body. So why does it feel like when you need someone to be there for you, you just can't seem to get a response?

    First of all, understand that God is not a victim of our circumstances. He's not your "genie in a magic lamp" or your servant. God already sent His son, Jesus, to die for you and purchased you at a very high price. He does not owe you anything. If your prayer is sincere when you say, "your will, Lord, not mine" why are you acting like things need to happen for you on YOUR timeline? The first thing you need to do when you feel alone is to seek Him. Next, tell Him how you feel. God is not afraid of your questions, He won't rebuke you for having doubts, and He certainly won't reject your feelings. All He asks is that you come to Him and trust that He's got this.

    Feeling alone is definitely not His first choice for you, but it is sometimes necessary. Maybe He is trying to get you to realize and understand that you still need Him? Maybe He took you seriously when you asked to be set apart? Whatever the reason is, trust Him and His timing. No matter how long this season of feeling alone is, understand that you are not alone. I have wondered the very same thing. Why do I feel alone? 

    God created you. He knit you together in your mother's womb. He created your feelings and He knows how deep your feelings run. He knew every second of your life, and how it would play out, before you were even thought of by your parents. Look, I'm not God, so I can't claim to know the exact reason why things might or might not happen in our lives. 

    I know that for me, I am just now coming out of a season of deep loneliness. I spent that time leaning in to His presence and His word. I turned on worship music when the thoughts of just *how* quiet it was started to creep in. When I felt anxious, I prayed. When I didn't have anyone to talk to, I prayed. When I had things on my chest that I needed to get off of it, I prayed. When I was sad, I worshiped. When I was desperate, I worshiped. When I needed answers, I read the Bible--and I found I related to David a lot in the book of Psalms. When I needed a distraction, I turned on worship music in the background as I read His word. Basically what I'm trying to convey to you is this: I felt the heaviness of the loneliness lift when I ran to Him. I felt the depression and the loneliness lift when I ran to Him. He became my best friend and my source of strength and hope. No longer was He just someone I knew I had to stay loyal to, He was someone I WANTED to be loyal to. Someone I knew I could depend on. He became my only hope. He wasn't just The Lord, He became Lord of my life! Please understand what I am trying to get across to you! Let the rest of the world fade away, and lean in to Him. 

He is waiting with open arms, all you have to do is lean in.

Some Bible verses to encourage you in Him:

Psalm 46:1 | Psalm 41:10 | Psalm 34:18 | Deuteronomy 31:6 | Isaiah 43:1-2

--T